You're holding it all together. But your mind never stops.
Psychotherapy for women who overthink, people-please and quietly carry more than anyone sees.
Face to face in Newcastle upon Tyne. Online across the UK.
You're probably functioning well on the outside. You manage things, you show up, you hold it together. But inside, your mind rarely stops. You overthink decisions after you've made them, replay conversations, and find it hard to trust your own judgement. You might be the person everyone relies on, while quietly wondering why you never feel settled.
You might struggle to remember the last time you did something just for you. Not productive, not useful to anyone else, just genuinely enjoyable.
Does this sound familiar?
Many of my clients arrive believing this is just who they are. A worrier. A people pleaser. Someone who thinks too much. They've tried to fix it. They may already have a good understanding of why they are the way they are. And none of it has shifted the feeling.
What I see, again and again, is women who learned very early how to be what was needed. How to read a room, how to keep things steady, how to perform "fine." These weren't deliberate choices. They were adaptations or strategies that made perfect sense at the time. But they became so familiar that they started to feel like personality. Like this is just who I am.
Sometimes that story was shaped by family.
Sometimes by being the rescuer or the fixer, the perfectionist, the one who holds everyone else together.
Sometimes by years of undiagnosed neurodivergence, or a late ADHD or autism diagnosis that finally made things make sense but also unravelled the version of yourself you'd built around not knowing.
Sometimes by hormonal shifts or perimenopause pulling the rug from under a coping system that was already running on fumes.
Often by several of these at once.
However you got here, the thread is the same: you've been living inside a version of yourself that was written by other people, and you've been trying to fix yourself rather than question the story.
What Psychotherapy Offers
A Shift, Not A Fix
Therapy can help you manage anxiety, overthinking and the patterns that feel stuck. But it does that by going deeper than strategies alone. When you understand why those patterns are there in the first place, and discover that they made sense because something happened around you that required you to adapt, the strategies stop being things you have to force and start becoming things that feel natural.
A Turning Point
That shift, from "I need to fix myself" to "I need to understand myself," is where things start to change.
Together we can explore what's beneath the surface. The patterns that developed early, the beliefs you inherited, the ways you learned to cope that once helped but may now be keeping you stuck. Understanding these things isn't just interesting. It changes how you relate to yourself and others.
A Relationship, Not A Programme
But understanding alone is not what changes things. These patterns didn't form through thinking. They formed through experience, through relationships, through what you learned early about who you needed to be. They live in your body as much as your mind.
That is why the therapeutic relationship matters so much. Being consistently met, week after week, by someone who is paying close attention to all of you, not just your words but what sits beneath them, offers something that no book, app or set of strategies can. A chance to experience being responded to differently. That is where real change happens, not through insight alone, but through a relationship where something that was learned relationally can, over time, be repaired relationally.
The regularity of sessions creates a container steady enough for you to stop managing how you come across and start noticing what is actually there. And because I work with the body as well as the mind, through somatic awareness, guided imagery, and body-based approaches, we can reach the things your nervous system holds that you may not yet have words for.
Therapy Can Help You:
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Build genuine self trust rather than constantly second guessing yourself.
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Set boundaries that feel steady rather than guilt ridden.
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Understand the roots of your overthinking, anxiety or self doubt.
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Separate who you actually are from who you were told you were.
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Rediscover what you actually enjoy and give yourself permission to pursue it.
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Feel more settled, clearer and more authentically yourself.
How I Work
I offer sessions face to face at my practice in the Ouseburn, Newcastle upon Tyne, and online via Zoom for anyone across the UK or internationally.
I work one to one with women and people of all gender identities (18 and over). My practice is LGBTQ+ inclusive and affirmative. I take a neuroaffirmative approach, which means I see neurodivergence as a valid part of who you are rather than something to be fixed.
I offer a free 30 minute telephone consultation so you can ask me any questions and get a feel for who I am and what therapy is like. There is no pressure or obligation to book sessions afterwards. If you'd like to go ahead, we arrange one or two assessment sessions to explore things in more depth before we settle into regular work together
Sessions are 50 minutes and cost £80.
My core approach is relational integrative psychotherapy, grounded in Transactional Analysis. I draw on attachment and developmental perspectives alongside creative and somatic approaches including guided imagery, sandtray and body based awareness where these feel helpful. What that means in practice is that I pay attention to how your past shapes your present, and I adapt how we work together to what suits you rather than following a single fixed model.
I am passionate about helping my clients to live life with confidence and authenticity. I believe in creating a compassionate, honest and hopeful space for you to work toward your goals or explore your difficulties, and I will be there alongside you on this journey.
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I also offer coaching for people who want to work on specific goals. If you're not sure whether therapy or coaching is right for you, we can talk that through in your free consultation.
I provide supervision for therapists and have several years of experience providing therapy to both trainee and qualified counsellors and psychotherapists.
Private Health Insurance
I'm a registered provider with Bupa, AXA, Aviva and WPA. If you have private health insurance that covers psychotherapy, you may be able to use your policy for sessions with me. Get in touch if you'd like to check.
If you have private health insurance and want to understand how to use it to access therapy, I've written a full guide to how it works.
Online Therapy
I work with clients across the UK and internationally via Zoom. Online sessions follow exactly the same structure as face to face work. You'll need a quiet, private space where you won't be interrupted and we'll arrange a backup plan before your first session in case of connection issues.
You don't need to have it all figured out before you get in touch. I offer a free 30 minute consultation so you can ask me any questions and get a feel for who I am and what therapy is like.